Things happen in life that are wrong. Families argue, drift apart or explode in arguments and drama. It doesn’t matter the reason – the story. What matters is that unless people can come together and talk openly and honestly, the story will not change. At least, not for the better.
The stories we tell ourselves about our lives and our interactions with other people are simply our perspective, and our perspective will be unbalanced if we don’t have the other side of the story. The same tale told from another person’s perspective is very likely to be different. Families are frequently destroyed because people cannot or will not see any perspective other than their own. And the destruction can span generations.
I know a person who, was deeply in love and wanted, eventually to marry his girlfriend. He knew he was too young at 17 and that he had mountains to climb first and so they planned and prepared. He was a committed, organised person and he knew exactly what he wanted his world to look like, but his parents decided to move to another country and were insistent that the young man abandon all his plans, and his fiancé, and go with them.
The family argued. The parents forbade their son to remain in the country where his life was laid out. He had a place at university, a girlfriend he knew was a soul mate and even the opportunity of work once university was completed. He didn’t want to give up his planned and hoped for future for the unknown, without his girlfriend, and in a new country.
The parents did everything in their power to make him go with them. They told all their extended family not to give their son a place to stay. They thought that without a home he would be forced to accompany them.
The son stood his ground; emancipated himself from his family.
They didn’t listen – so they couldn’t understand
The parents didn’t take time to listen to why their son wanted to remain and just tried to bull-doze him into complying without ever explaining why. The son, overwhelmed and distressed by his parents’ apparent disregard for what he wanted to do, walked away from his parents and his brothers and sisters. Neither party stopped to really talk about what was in their hearts. None of them truly listened and, as a result, there was little hope of moving forward with love and understanding. They were each trying to impose their own desires on the other.
The parents eventually grew old and died. The son too died, and now younger generations are left with a wound that they do not understand because they were not part of the original story.
This rift started over 50 years ago has now reached down to affect the fourth generation. This is a Ancestral Karmic Imbalance. It takes different forms with each generation, but the original Energy is there – and it can be equally destructive.
It can be righted by simply, and openly, by listening to the story – from every perspective – and then allowing the healing to take place.
Better still, when faced with a question, look at all sides and listen to all the stories. Be prepared to allow that your way may not be the best way or the only way.
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