Tag: Fear

Helping You – 5

Over the last 4 posts, we’ve had a good look at what happens in your body when you go into overwhelm.  You know that feeling, it’s when everything gets on top of you and you just want to burst into tears and hibernate somewhere until it all goes away.  Doesn’t matter if its work, kids, school, finances, partner issues, illness, chronic pain or a sabre toothed tiger popping up in the supermarket.  Your body reacts exactly the same – it hops into the Fight or Flight Response at warp speed plus.

If you want to know more about the Fight or Flight Response (FFR) follow the links below to my previous articles on this topic

Last issue we touched upon some of the ways we actually keep ourselves in that Fight or Flight Response (FFR) situation and in this issue I want to look at how that constant low-grade FFR affects your health.

Actually it’s easy.  Pretty much every thing you have a health issue with can be directed back to your lifestyle with a big emphasis on the amount of stress you deal with.

I know someone who has been in that Stress Response (FFR) pretty much all her life.  It has badly affected her health, and I am going to give you the short version of those problems – and the way she climbed out of that cycle.  I know this person very well indeed.  It’s me.  I tell you this not for sympathy, but rather to show you that you can be in the lowest place and still climb out if you are prepared to put in the work. 

I was emotionally abused as a child, but it was so insidious I didn’t even realise it was abuse until a few years ago.

I lived in a town on the Cold War strike list.  The threat of a nuclear bomb landing on my home town was very real.  We lived in the shadow of nuclear power stations; built nuclear submarines.  The IRA and Greenpeace activists were a constant worry. 

I was a classical ballet dancer – with all the demands and stresses of that profession.

In 1980 I found myself on the floor of a shopping mall in the UK in the middle of racial riots.  Noise, shrieks, glass windows crashing to the floor, youths trying to kill each other, missiles being thrown.  It took another 20 years before I was diagnosed with PTSD.  I had full-scale panic attacks almost every day as I pushed myself to live as close to a normal life as possible. 

I’m an Empath and the world news of that era – war, famine, torture were constant on the news – I couldn’t handle it and had a breakdown.

My husband was diagnosed with a terminal brain cancer.  I nursed him at home.  During this time there was also problems with money, threats to have our house taken off us and so much more.

I collapsed, paralysed for several hours on the bathroom floor.  I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia.  I had been an elite athlete; I trained with Olympic athletes and ranked in the top 5% fittest people on Earth.  Now I couldn’t walk across the room. 

Recently, there’s been really tough financial situations; another breakdown; relationship issues…..  the list is ongoing.

I say that I have lived my life in constant fear.  To a certain extent this is true, but there were also joys and love and laughter.

One day my doctor told me I needed to stop working and start using a wheelchair.  That is when I turned my life around.  A wheelchair was not for me.

This seems long winded, but believe me it is the short version! 

So what did I do to get myself out of this stressful, anxiety-laden life?  That first step is the hardest – I recognised that I needed to stop living in fear and do something about where I’d ended up.  I had to work it out myself as I had no help.  It’s absolutely not a quick fix. This work takes strength and determination.  And it starts with the breathing exercise I gave you in the very first post in this series!  But MAN it is worth the effort.

More next time – I’ve run out of space!

Did you miss the previous posts in this series? Here’s the links….

Helping You – 1

Helping You – 2

Helping You – 3

Helping You – 4



Which Way Forward?

I wrote the following a few weeks ago when we first started to hear of children being separated from their parents as they tried to head towards a better life in the US.  It triggered a worldwide shock wave – and I am not about to get embroiled in the why’s and the finger-pointing, nor will I respond to any negative discussions that may result from this sharing of my thoughts.  These words are just my verbal meanderings as I try to sort it all out in my mind – what is the way forward?

Here in Australia, at the same time, there was outrage against the men who perpetrate crimes against women and the fears of women generally as the focus was once again turned, not towards educating men that this is not acceptable, but in educating women in the need to be more vigilant and more restricted in their actions.  Women were standing up and asking why they need to be careful, why they need to stay indoors, why should they not be free to venture outside without a male escort?

I do my best in such situation to remain outside the energy, to be the Detatched Compassionate Observer, but in the face of all this emotion it was hard to remain separate – and certainly it was hard to remain silent.  So I did what I naturally do – I wrote.

Regardless of your stance in these or similar topics I hope you will read beyond these initial thoughts of mine and to the voice I now hold in my heart that I would share with those who would like to hear.  I’m not saying I am right, heck I’m as confused as anyone else as to how this human race got themselves to this point, but I do have a few thoughts that may give you a pause for thought, an idea how you want to travel forward from this point.

This is what I wrote:

If every woman curls up and says “This is just how it is. Nothing has changed in the past and nothing will change in the future,” we, as a Collective Consciousness will choose that reality. We will be agreeing that it is ok to disempower women, that it’s OK to make women into perpetual victims. Yes, women are also taking that party line – they have been led to believe that they do not have the right to expect to be able to walk through a park at night without considering personal safety as a priority. They have been sold the concept that it is up to women to protect themselves from attack, and by default they have agreed that men hold power over them. Most who follow this path do not even see it. They do not understand that by following the ethos of “Nothing Changes” nothing WILL change.

Each individual, whether male or female, who cannot stand up and be counted in whatever way they are able to do so, is supporting the view that women (and children) don’t count.

I’m not an activist. I don’t follow world events. I am not the person who will go on marches or protests. I am the silent sister who simply adds her voice to the many other individual voices around the world saying ENOUGH. I am the sister of those who are afraid, but I am past my fear. I do not live by fear. It is no longer a part of my world. I am one individual who is part of the whole who says that the dominance over the weak, the hurting and the innocents is over.

Fear is the means that has been used for thousands of years to keep the balance in favour of those who perpetuate the fear. Those who would be rulers. This Energy we are discussing here, and that in the USA with the separation and imprisonment of children, and in almost all other parts of the planet is this Fear.

Now it is time for choice. Do we stay with fear or do we work now, raise each individual voice in whatever manner the person is drawn to do for the beneft of innocents. Do you want your daughters, and their daughters’ daughters to be able to be able to go for a run in the park, without fear? Or is your fear so great that you cannot even add your prayers to the growing movement of those who say NO MORE.

Even now, reading this it doesn’t seem unreasonable, but what if I were to tell you that even that reasonable-sounding voice is also adding to the disharmonious energy of Fear?  As too is that last sentence, because some of you will have become annoyed, angry even, at my words – “What?  That’s BS!  Everyone can fight in any way they want/feel called.”  And whilst that’s not wrong either, we have to dig deep and discover the base emotions behind our thoughts.   It is usually righteous indignation – which has the base of Fear, and without Fear, there is nothing to fight. It’s that simple.  And the sad part is that most who call out in this way don’t even realise that it is within the Energy of Fear that they are walking.

It is so very, very hard to live in this Reality and avoid Fear.  It is everywhere.  We all live in perpetual Fight or Flight Response and for some, the slightest thing can trigger anger, annoyance, even chest-puffing bluffing.  Today I saw a conversation on Face book between two people who consider themselves as “Lightworkers” – they were talking about the number of guns they have and that they were ready for whatever they thought was coming.  I also heard of other Spiritual people who talk about Love and Light – and gear up for marches against something that angers them.  And so much more in a similar vein.

It saddens me that the folk who genuinely want to do the right thing, who feel they are defending those who cannot defend themselves; who genuinely feel they can make a difference still feel the need to follow the same aggressive model that hasn’t worked but has been the norm for the last few thousand years.  They cannot see that they are not, after all, following the Goddess, the Divine Feminine, they are still feeding the world of anger, aggression and the “I am going to fight for my cause through my physicality.”

Without a doubt the events that cause us to fear, to be angry with the actions of our leaders need to stop.  I don’t think that anyone who calls themselves “Human” can disagree with that.  But do we believe – I mean truly believe – that following the male-dominated model of the last few thousand years is the right way to continue?

These, of course, are just my thoughts, my ramblings, but when I realised that the words I wrote were still feeding that anger and fear, I stopped and took a good long look at what I was hoping to achieve, and I realised that my actions in writing those words, and the way I believe these changes will come into this world are very widely different.  My words shout that we need to change this NOW.  Right Now.  Someone needs to fix this problem now so we no longer have this fear and anger in the world.  We don’t want to live like this, with this fear any more.  The underlying story of these words is like that of a child – lashing out in fear and confusion and trying, in the only way she knows how, to fix things –  but the fixing tool is broken.  It no longer works, in fact it hardly ever did work for most people.  It’s a boy-tool, male energy working through money and technology and power-games.  It no longer works and more and more people are realising that they need to find another way.

The “other way” is ultimately in the balance and harmony of the male and the female – but guys – we are riding pendulum of emotions and if we are not careful we will send the pendulum shooting too far the other way (more on that another day), but for now we need to walk our talk.

Trying to combat Fear with Anger will not work.  Love and Light do not walk hand-in-hand with guns and argument.  Peace and Calm do not blend well with dogma and dominance.  Each time we bring these together we are saying that this is the world we choose.  We are building the future reality with our actions now.  I know that the future world I want to see is not these things.

My truth, as I see it now, is that these things will not be fixed by marches and demonstrations and fear and anger.  These things will not be fixed overnight.  Heck, I don’t think these things will be fixed in my lifetime.  Or the life time of my children’s children.  But maybe, if we get it right now, then their children, my great-great grandkids, may be able to walk in freedom and balance.

We are honoured to be here right now.  This is a time of New Beginnings and New Knowledge – and we need to step up and use that New Knowledge to bring about the New Beginnings of the future of humanity.  WE are the ones to take the first steps in turning away from that old male model of aggression that has failed all but a few, and we need to continue what the Hippy / Flower Power generation started.  Peace through Unity and Love.

Through each Individual Consciousness acting through Love, Compassion, Prayer, Unity and Knowledge we will slowly move towards that time of balance.  We just need to get organised in following that peaceful route together.  And the first step is coming to Unity in how we are going to approach this matter.

For now, I Energetically support the Collective Consciousness of Humanity and when enough people get together in this way, believe me – you can see the changes starting to happen.

Flippin’ Heck!

I had a wonderful deep and meaningful conversation a little while ago with friends.  Sometimes such debates will result in nothing more than joy in the talk, sometimes they send me off to research more info, sometimes the conversation just sits in a hidden corner of my mind and will jump out at me days, or even weeks later, with confirmation or an alternate view or a desire to share – such as now.  Luckily for you, dear Reader, you actually get very little of my thoughts.  How boring are those people who spew out every little thought every single day!!!

So, today’s “Deep and Meaningful” is about making the best of a bad situation.  You know those times – we all experience them – when it feels like the end of the world is about to happen and we get so overwhelmed that we just want to hibernate.  Those times when it seems like everyone is chasing you for money – and you don’t have any until pay day; when the kids seem to only know one word “Muuuuuuummmmmm”,  when you miss the bus or train and you are now going to be late for work – and the Big Boss is going to be there and you just know that you’ll get overlooked now for that promotion.  You know the sort of thing I’m talking about.  You are human, so of course you know!!!

So what is it that makes some people just deal?  Things happen and they find a way through the turmoil with barely a hair out of place?  It’s preparation – and I don’t mean preparation like having the kids lunches packed the night before or making sure you have a stash of oh-my-goodness-I’ve-missed-the-bus-need-to-get-a-taxi money hidden in your bra – I’m talking about preparing your brain so that it doesn’t get all panicky and go into Fight or Flight mode where you just can’t think!!!

Huh?

When something like that happens, your brain just can’t tell the difference between missing the bus and seeing a sabre-toothed tiger walking down the street.  Both are fearful events even though only one of them has the potential to kill you!  Your brain turns to mush, sends out panic signals, your adrenals do their thing and you get a rush of hormones flooding your body ready to get you out of the way of that tiger.  And if you haven’t trained your brain to recognise those symptoms (and the fact that there isn’t a tiger) and to stop long enough to allow your logical brain to kick in and offer an alternate solution (like getting a taxi when you miss the bus) there’s your day – ruined!

There are lots of ways you can train your brain – meditation is way up there on the list, but also learning to flip your thoughts.  Whenever you catch yourself having a ‘negative’ thought – flip it.  Always.  Find something positive, or ridiculously silly about the event.  Lik when you are wondering if your butt looks too big – grab a mirror and watch yourself twerking – bet you are awesome, and even if you are not you’ll probably end up in a fit of giggles.  When things start to get into overwhelm, look for the ‘lesson’ so that it doesn’t happen again – like the credit card payments for example.  You missed a payment and really don’t like getting the reminder phone call and you’ve stopped answering your phone unless you know who’s on the other end.  Not a comfortable situation – so brainstorm ideas about how you can make sure it doesn’t happen again.

Even though they can seem huge at the time, you can always – and I seriously mean ALWAYS – find something that is light.

I’m really short of $$ at the moment so I decided to sell a lot of stuff and that gives me lot of choices in how I view these sales:

  • I’ve loved those collectables for years, I want to keep them – OR –  that’s less dusting to do/ less clutter/ I never really looked at them anymore / how nice that someone new will get to enjoy them!  How many times have I moaned about stuff being left all over the place!
  • Why do we have to sell the rowing machine – I was planning to get back on there and lose some weight – OR – well, isn’t it nice that someone will get chance to feel fitter and healthier, because I’ve been meaning to do that for 4 years, and I do really prefer to take the dog for a walk to the doggy park – lots of doggy cuddles I wouldn’t get stuck inside on that rowing machine!
  • The kids have driven me INSANE; why did I ever think I wanted kids?  – OR – when they are finally asleep they are angels/ the little one just brought me a flower from the garden and my heart just melted/ they are going to be awesome, indepentant, strong adults one day

Get the picture?  Go look at something in YOUR life that you moan about, or have negative thoughts about and see how easy it is to flip into a positive thought.

My washing machine got left behind last time we moved – and see the picture at the top of this blog?  That’s my new washing machine!  I get to experience how my grandmother did the washing.  And yes, it’s hard work, but scrubbing clothes up and down that washboard is very therapeutic.  I can meditate at the same time.  I actually like that so much that there is a possibility I won’t rush to buy a ‘proper’ washing machine!!!  Who needs a washing machine when you have elbow-grease and a washboard, warm, clean-smelling water and a far greater sense of satisfaction at a job well done than you get by throwing them in a machine and pressing the ‘on’ button!

If you practice flipping your thoughts, seeking the lighter, brighter, fun aspect of your troubles then they suddenly don’t seem so huge.

So next time you are about to spit-the-dummy or feel as if things are about to overwhelm you just stop.  Draw a deep breath in; close your eyes and slowly breath out and FLIP whatever was about to rock your boat.  Stuff may still go bottom-up but it won’t be so painful or scary.

And for those who follow a spiritual path and understand how the Law of Attraction works – you will find that by flipping all negative thoughts, you start to attract the positive stuff.  Like me.  I was going through a tough patch and had to sell stuff so I could pay the rent.  Then, out of the blue I discovered an old insurance I had forgotten about and phoned up to see what the go was.  And was told that I actually had TWO old insurances I could cash in.  Not a lot of money, but enough to tide me over.  How amazing is that!!!!

I’m off to do the laundry!

 

Ki’An is an Holistic Counsellor and Meditation Therapist.  She is also a practitioner of Reiki and Access Consciousness(R) Bars.  Other methods of energy work include intuitive healing using crystals, medicine drum, tibetan singing bowl and more. 
Please visit   http://www.kianhealing.com.au for more information regarding classes and conssultations.

Energy Frequency Vibration

IMG_5587 (2)I first wrote about these words as a passionate, excited Neophyte who had finally reached a level of understanding about what they meant and how they would colour my life forever.   I wrote four articles in my Dance In Thunder blog and I’ve shared the link more than a few times in trying to help people who have recognised that they are travelling through the energy of Fear but don’t know how to escape.

I have moved forward on my Journey, have learned a little more about the path I am following, have a pretty good idea of the direction I am traveling and recognise that I probably have many years more learning to do as I head in that direction.  So I am not promising to have all the answers, but maybe my writings will give you food for thought and ideas in how to deal with the low frequency energies that often seem to follow people who are stepping out onto their personal Spiritual Journey.

For a while, these words were probably the thing my Friend and Teacher most spoke about.  We joked about getting them tattooed on my forearm so I’d never forget them, but it wasn’t until a time of strife and stress; a time of being bathed in low-frequency energies that I came to better understand the meaning.  I need to experience things in order to get to the deeper Truth, and this need has lead me into a life-time of disasters and dramas.  I’m sometimes slow on the uptake so the dramas tend to cycle around, but am now getting a whole lot better at recognising my Lessons and understanding those Truths as they appear at that time.  In the context of the disasters and dramas of my life this one was fairly easy to get under my belt, mainly because of a mental picture I was given by my Teacher and friend, Essence Ka tha’ras, and it is this which I want to share with you.

EVERYTHING IS ENERGY

EVERYTHING is energy.  You, your home, the clothes you wear, the food you eat, everything you see, feel touch, hear, smell, say, think.  It is all energy.  We all know that we are made up of trillions and trillions of atoms – all whirling around, looking like miniScreenshot (61) galaxies and producing….yep energy!  And between and within these atoms there is – as far as I know, (I’m no scientist, but I plan on learning more) – nothing!  Apparent emptiness.  These atoms and the emptiness between is the playground of Quantum Physics.  Those studying QP are slowly discovering the science behind the Shaman and the Healer and I find it fascinating that I have the opportunity to be here, in this lifetime, to be able to see this happening.  The first steps leading to a time where science and Spirit blend into one.  The medicine of the future.

Most of us say those words “Everything is Energy” or “I’m working on raising my Vibration” or similar, but they are just words really if you are still working consistently within lower-frequency energies and feeling the pull of Fear.  When you get a good solid handle on this you find that Fear really isn’t an issue any more.  Unless you are jumping out of a plane or on a roller-coaster or facing a tiger.  Then, your body has its own protective system and overcoming that is a whole different ball-game we can talk about another time.  It would be hard to avoid that kind of fear, but for now, I’m talking more about Spiritual fear.

Everything is energy, but all energy isn’t the same.  Energy vibrates.  It vibrates at different frequencies.  You can see this by looking at sine waves.  They measure the frequency of the vibrations.  Here is the bit that fascinates me – all the horrible stuff, the emotions such as anger, bigotry, fear, are energies that vibrate at a low speed.  I haven’t yet researched if I am right, but it seems to me that every low frequency energy devolves down to Fear.  If you are angry, and you look at your anger, you will find fear lurking behind it.  If you are racist – you fear those who are different so you react.  If you are a bully you fear that someone may be better than you, or different to you and because you don’t understand that, you lash out at that difference so that you can feel in charge again.  Worry and stress – Fear of what is to come or is currently happening.  We all hit that one at some point!

When you understand that anger and fear are low frequency energy, its very easy to work out what is high frequency – Love, Peace, Joy are right up there at the top.  When we talk about raising our vibration – this is what we are aiming for – the ability to consistently live in those high frequency energies.

And so I come to the mental picture I was given, and that has been so very helpful in maintaining a high frequency vibration within my energy.  Its very simple.  No complicated ceremonies, no magic, no smudging, no protection-raising.  All I am asking is that you imagine a ladder.

Screenshot (54)Yes.  A simple ladder.  Build it in your mind.  You can design your Energy Ladder however you want it to look.  A simple, traditional wooden ladder; a fancy one with ornate trellis up the sides; a golden staircase; whatever works for you.  No rules on your ladder design!!  But it needs lots of rungs, or steps.  Once you have your Energy Ladder firmly in your mind, we need to expand it out a bit.  Develop the top and the bottom – for any ladder this is important.  It needs to stand on something and lean against something.

This is the bit you need to get very firmly in your mind.  Each rung vibrates at a different frequency.  Low frequency at the bottom, high frequency at the top.  Its obvious really.  You don’t need to think too deeply about this but have a sort-of picture about the bottom, where the ladder is standing.  Mine, I describe simply as “Murk.”  It’s not an area I want to be in so I don’t spend a lot of time thinking about it, but I understand it’s there.  The top of my ladder is in pure bright light.  Again, it’s there, but its still a fair way above me and there is a lot about those energies that my human mind can’t comprehend, so I don’t try to understand.  It just is.  Someday, in some future lifetime or alternate dimension I may get there and although it’s unlikely to be this one, the thought is comforting.

Right at the bottom, in the murk is the lowest frequency rung.  In my mind this is Fear.  You may think a different emotion is the lowest – that’s fine.  It’s your ladder.  Above that, the next rung up may be Anger.  Whatever.  I’m sure you get the picture.  You are standing somewhere on the ladder.  You need to work this out for yourself.  I think of the Dalai Lama as somewhere near the top and I am nowhere near his level, so that gives me a guideline for where I am.

We have a picture of our Energy Ladder and where we stand on it. I am, in future articles, going to be referring again and again to your Energy Ladder as we explore the practical aspects of maintaining your higher frequency.  This mental picture is going to become something that will flash into your mind each time you come across something that worries you and each time that something happens to make you feel you can climb to a higher rung.

And here is the Golden Truth about your Energy Ladder

LOW FREQUENCY ENERGIES CANNOT CLIMB THE LADDER.

Think about it.  If you are, let’s say, 7 steps up your ladder and something happens that triggers anger in you, you have a choice.  You can become angry – in which case you will find yourself standing on the rung with that frequency.  On my ladder that would be the 2nd rung up.  In the murk!  I would have slipped down 5 rungs.  Alternatively I could look at that happening and tell myself, yep I could get myself good and angry, but what will that achieve?  Will making myself angry help?  Certainly in some cases, being good and angry can motivate you to achieve higher things, but only you know if that’s likely to be the case here, or if you are just getting angry for anger’s sake.  But guess what?  Anger cannot move up the ladder to you.  If that emotion tries to come to you, on your 7th step, it has to raise its frequency….. and in doing that, it means it is no longer Anger.

Have a think about how that works for Fear.

In future articles, I plan to explore things that crop up and look at how you can apply this Energy Ladder picture – and how you may be shooting yourself in the foot without even realising it!!  There are no promises about how frequent these articles may be – I have a complicated life – but to be honest, now you have your Energy Ladder – you have most of the tools you need!

In Lak’ech Ala K’in

Sue Thomson

Ki’An Healing

 

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