Tag: Emotion

Flippin’ Heck!

I had a wonderful deep and meaningful conversation a little while ago with friends.  Sometimes such debates will result in nothing more than joy in the talk, sometimes they send me off to research more info, sometimes the conversation just sits in a hidden corner of my mind and will jump out at me days, or even weeks later, with confirmation or an alternate view or a desire to share – such as now.  Luckily for you, dear Reader, you actually get very little of my thoughts.  How boring are those people who spew out every little thought every single day!!!

So, today’s “Deep and Meaningful” is about making the best of a bad situation.  You know those times – we all experience them – when it feels like the end of the world is about to happen and we get so overwhelmed that we just want to hibernate.  Those times when it seems like everyone is chasing you for money – and you don’t have any until pay day; when the kids seem to only know one word “Muuuuuuummmmmm”,  when you miss the bus or train and you are now going to be late for work – and the Big Boss is going to be there and you just know that you’ll get overlooked now for that promotion.  You know the sort of thing I’m talking about.  You are human, so of course you know!!!

So what is it that makes some people just deal?  Things happen and they find a way through the turmoil with barely a hair out of place?  It’s preparation – and I don’t mean preparation like having the kids lunches packed the night before or making sure you have a stash of oh-my-goodness-I’ve-missed-the-bus-need-to-get-a-taxi money hidden in your bra – I’m talking about preparing your brain so that it doesn’t get all panicky and go into Fight or Flight mode where you just can’t think!!!

Huh?

When something like that happens, your brain just can’t tell the difference between missing the bus and seeing a sabre-toothed tiger walking down the street.  Both are fearful events even though only one of them has the potential to kill you!  Your brain turns to mush, sends out panic signals, your adrenals do their thing and you get a rush of hormones flooding your body ready to get you out of the way of that tiger.  And if you haven’t trained your brain to recognise those symptoms (and the fact that there isn’t a tiger) and to stop long enough to allow your logical brain to kick in and offer an alternate solution (like getting a taxi when you miss the bus) there’s your day – ruined!

There are lots of ways you can train your brain – meditation is way up there on the list, but also learning to flip your thoughts.  Whenever you catch yourself having a ‘negative’ thought – flip it.  Always.  Find something positive, or ridiculously silly about the event.  Lik when you are wondering if your butt looks too big – grab a mirror and watch yourself twerking – bet you are awesome, and even if you are not you’ll probably end up in a fit of giggles.  When things start to get into overwhelm, look for the ‘lesson’ so that it doesn’t happen again – like the credit card payments for example.  You missed a payment and really don’t like getting the reminder phone call and you’ve stopped answering your phone unless you know who’s on the other end.  Not a comfortable situation – so brainstorm ideas about how you can make sure it doesn’t happen again.

Even though they can seem huge at the time, you can always – and I seriously mean ALWAYS – find something that is light.

I’m really short of $$ at the moment so I decided to sell a lot of stuff and that gives me lot of choices in how I view these sales:

  • I’ve loved those collectables for years, I want to keep them – OR –  that’s less dusting to do/ less clutter/ I never really looked at them anymore / how nice that someone new will get to enjoy them!  How many times have I moaned about stuff being left all over the place!
  • Why do we have to sell the rowing machine – I was planning to get back on there and lose some weight – OR – well, isn’t it nice that someone will get chance to feel fitter and healthier, because I’ve been meaning to do that for 4 years, and I do really prefer to take the dog for a walk to the doggy park – lots of doggy cuddles I wouldn’t get stuck inside on that rowing machine!
  • The kids have driven me INSANE; why did I ever think I wanted kids?  – OR – when they are finally asleep they are angels/ the little one just brought me a flower from the garden and my heart just melted/ they are going to be awesome, indepentant, strong adults one day

Get the picture?  Go look at something in YOUR life that you moan about, or have negative thoughts about and see how easy it is to flip into a positive thought.

My washing machine got left behind last time we moved – and see the picture at the top of this blog?  That’s my new washing machine!  I get to experience how my grandmother did the washing.  And yes, it’s hard work, but scrubbing clothes up and down that washboard is very therapeutic.  I can meditate at the same time.  I actually like that so much that there is a possibility I won’t rush to buy a ‘proper’ washing machine!!!  Who needs a washing machine when you have elbow-grease and a washboard, warm, clean-smelling water and a far greater sense of satisfaction at a job well done than you get by throwing them in a machine and pressing the ‘on’ button!

If you practice flipping your thoughts, seeking the lighter, brighter, fun aspect of your troubles then they suddenly don’t seem so huge.

So next time you are about to spit-the-dummy or feel as if things are about to overwhelm you just stop.  Draw a deep breath in; close your eyes and slowly breath out and FLIP whatever was about to rock your boat.  Stuff may still go bottom-up but it won’t be so painful or scary.

And for those who follow a spiritual path and understand how the Law of Attraction works – you will find that by flipping all negative thoughts, you start to attract the positive stuff.  Like me.  I was going through a tough patch and had to sell stuff so I could pay the rent.  Then, out of the blue I discovered an old insurance I had forgotten about and phoned up to see what the go was.  And was told that I actually had TWO old insurances I could cash in.  Not a lot of money, but enough to tide me over.  How amazing is that!!!!

I’m off to do the laundry!

 

Ki’An is an Holistic Counsellor and Meditation Therapist.  She is also a practitioner of Reiki and Access Consciousness(R) Bars.  Other methods of energy work include intuitive healing using crystals, medicine drum, tibetan singing bowl and more. 
Please visit   http://www.kianhealing.com.au for more information regarding classes and conssultations.

A Tricky Topic

This is a tough topic.  It shouldn’t be because it’s something we will all achieve eventually.  It’s the last thing that most of us will do in this lifetime although some do it a couple of times, usually thanks to modern medicine.  I’m talking about death and grief.  If this is a sensitive subject at this time for you, it’s probably best not to read further just now.  This is just my view, at this stage in my life.  I know some people will worry that I’m struggling in some way, but no I just feel this is a topic with a taboo that we need to re-assess.  It shouldn’t be something to fear.

This ramble was triggered by a Face Book friend who has just written that she had to say goodbye to her dog after an emergency trip to the vets.  It’s such a time of sadness, when you loose a fur baby and friends gather around offering support and condolences, but I have a very different view that could be difficult for some folk to comprehend.

I’ve never feared death.  It’s a part of the experience of living.  None of us can escape it.  It’s the unknown that often scares us and the fear that many of us experience is mainly due to centuries of religious fear of going to Hell if you are bad.  And let’s be honest, we are all ‘bad’ at times.  It’s part of being human.  I bet there is not one person reading this who has not stolen something – even if it’s just a paperclip from the office or ten minutes of someone’s time when they were in a hurry.  In this scenario, Hell must be a busy place!

When someone I know passes, of course there is sadness and grief, but for me it is also a time of celebration.  This person (including fur babies) was in my life for a reason and my life is so much richer for having known that person, and hopefully that person gained much for having me in their life for a time too.

It is so easy to get caught up in the sorrow of someone passing.  You may disagree or want to argue with me, but I see that sorrow as also a little selfish.  Don’t, please, get me wrong, I also don’t see ‘selfish’ as a bad emotion although it can be.  The sorrow is because that person is no longer there.  You cannot interact with them anymore.  They are missing in your life.  They have left a hole that is going to be difficult to fill.

In our sorrow, we often forget the good times we shared with that person.  At least for a while.  For me this is the crux of grieving, the ultimate thing to be sad about – we forget for a time how much richer we are for having known that person.

When someone passes we all offer sympathy: “So sorry for your loss.”  “My condolences.”  We just don’t know what to say to bring comfort and that brings a level of awkwardness and sometimes friends just drop away when they are needed most, simply because they don’t know how to help.

For me, the way to help is to remember the good times.  The Joy and Laughter you shared together.  The giggles and the mischief, the times you sat into the middle of the night discussing world affairs, the hugs.  Remember the funny quirks that you teased him or her about, the things he or she taught you.  Remember and be thankful for the Love you shared, but most of all, don’t focus on the sadness.  It isn’t disrespectful to giggle at a funeral when you are remembering with Love.

When my first husband passed 20 years ago, I wanted to hold an old-fashioned wake.  Not one where everyone stands around, dressed in black with serious expressions on their faces, and softly spoken words.  I wanted a good old knees-up, a remember with Joy And Laughter PARTY!  I wanted ‘funniest thing I can remember about Ian’ games.  I wanted kids to have ‘run like Uncle Ian’ races (he had a very strange way of running).   I had a shed full of car maintenance tools I’d never use and didn’t even know the names of, so I wanted a Grab a Gift from Ian for all the guys into motor racing or car repairs.  I wanted a Moody Blues sing-along.  I wanted to make his life, and the impact it had had on each person there REAL.  I had heaps of practical support from many wonderful people, but people are so conditioned to celebrating the sadness; the absence of the person that they just couldn’t cope with my need to celebrate the good and the funny quirks that made Ian who he was.

What all this rambling is ultimately saying is yes, the time that someone transitions is sad, but don’t let the sadness overpower the richer memories.  The Joy and the Laughter.  You walked with that person, or fur baby, for a reason and when they leave your life, let the memories be the good ones.

I’m not old, but I am older and occasionally thoughts of my mortality cross my mind (no, I’m not being morbid so, my loved ones reading this, no need to worry).  I see my eventual time of transition as my greatest adventure,  I get to see, to Know, what comes next!  I am honoured that I got to walk next to you for a while.  Maybe I’ll get chance, like Billy Fingers, to pop back and say Hi!

 

 

Sharing the Energy…

I’m finding a fair number of Facebook friends are spouting off at the moment.  At a ton of different things, and most of them seem to be pointing at things in the physical world that they see through emotional eyes and without any digging into the event to see what really is happening.  Just reading something, getting wound up because, in this day of so much False News, they have a certain innocence and still automatically believe what people tell them.  Let’s have a look at this….  From a basic Energy perspective it is quite interesting.

Did you know that when you respond with an emotional blast of anger, you are feeding energy to the very thing that threw you into a tizz in the first place?

Think about it from a purely practical/physical/emotional point of view:

You read about something that really gets you annoyed.  That gives you a choice – you can react by actually directing that energy into finding more info about the situation, so you are not just being a sheeple, but working out whether it is something you should be angry about.  Or you can just re-post without checking the validity and without adding anything.  You can let your anger blurb out and add your comments to the post (maybe with a whole heap of swear words and finger pointing).  You can also choose to do nothing or even delete the post from your page.  There is probably many more things you can do, but these are the main ones I see.

Let’s look at what happens with each of these things – and we’ll use a scenario that actually appeared on my page a few minutes ago and triggered this ramble.  A local tour boat has been forbidden to tie up at the dock due to health and safety risks.

 

You can re-post without checking the validity and without adding anything:

This appeared in your feed, the person who posted it is quite wound up.  You didn’t know anything about this and it has got you quite annoyed.  But you are a ‘don’t rock the boat’ kind of person, you prefer not to get personally involved, even though you are actually pretty angry about it.  So you don’t bother to find out if this is true or not (and that is so easy nowadays with Google) you just hit the Share button.  That’s so easy and, having done your thing, you can completely forget about it.  You didn’t sound off, you didn’t rant, you just let it flow through you and maybe if you are Spiritual you added a belt of Love and Light.

Except you have 300 friends and let’s say that half of those people saw that re-post.  50 of those friends live in the local area and of those 50, 40 didn’t know about this.  It just dropped into their feed in the same way as you received it.  So now, potentially, another 40 people are annoyed.  Some will sound off, most won’t check the validity.  And I’d bet my bottom dollar that no-one will actually contact the tour operator or the harbour master to find out the real situation and see if they can help.  And if each of those 40 have 300 friends……  Well that is a whole lot of people going through their day feeling angry.

This form of sharing is AWESOME if many of these people decide that they need to physically get out of their armchair, check out the real facts and if the matter is accurate and unjust, go see what they can do to help. Just think Standing Rock.  But really?  In our society?  Mainly we just get good and mad.  Then find something else to get good and mad over.  Humans like to point the finger of blame at someone!

Maybe you get REALLY wound up and have a great rant:

IMG_0379Phew!  Got that out of your system, you kinda let rip but hey! that released the anger and now you can get on with your life.

Except…… Those 300 friends.  They now have the added fire of YOUR anger added to the initial post and there may be some who are offended by the swearing (I’m one of those – swearing is low frequency energy and I don’t want that in my energy field)  So now, YOU may have released your anger by spouting off, but you have just INCREASED the load you have spread around.  And you STILL didn’t bother the check the validity or the reason behind the decision OR get off your chair to do something about it.  Getting the picture?  Those flames are well and truly fanned!

Redirect the Energy:

When the post hits your feed and you get all riled up about it, maybe the first thing you do is say to yourself “Stop – let’s check if this is true”  So many people fail to do this and that is how angry rumours and false news get a foothold in social media.  Let us say that you make the decision to check it out and you turn to Google.  In this way you gain really good information so you can decide if you do need to get good and angry or if it’s all a load of hogswash!  Or maybe there is a really good reason that the boat was forbidden to tie up at the dock.  Whatever it is, you are then taking your next step – sharing or not sharing, maybe telling it as it really is.  The other benefit of heading off to Google first is that you have had time to take a metaphorical deep breath!  You don’t just explode with a heap of emotional-driven superlatives and hit the share button!

You can choose to do nothing:

This one is a tricky one.  A lot depends on your thinking behind this.  Did you choose to do nothing because you are not interested – someone else’s problem, not yours?  Did you choose to do nothing because you know that one lone voice is pretty much lost in the wilderness of all this anger?  Maybe you chose to do nothing because you got involved before in something similar and got hurt.  Maybe you did check it out, found it was true and chose to do nothing because you feel there is nothing to do – there was a solid reason behind the decision maybe.  Some people may think you cowardly for appearing to ignore the situation (I have not followed news media for about 35 years – many people think this of me.  I no longer care what they think.  I know what is right for me).  There are so many reasons behind this choice, but the bottom line is that you are NOT feeding the energy.  Not in a positive way by acting or in a negative way by re-acting.  And provided you are comfortable with that decision and understand why you made this choice, that is absolutely great.

You can delete the post – and maybe the poster:

This is my preferred method.

We have already shown that the post is carrying low-frequency energy in the form of anger.  You have decided you are not going to promulgate that anger.  So you can either leave the post on your page and it will soon move out of sight, or you can remove it from your page.

The reason I prefer to remove such posts from my page is the Law of Attraction.  Yes, that very Law that we use whenever we want to create something in our lives (like money, good health, a holiday etc).  The Law of Attraction doesn’t care what is being asked, it simply reads the Energy.  And low-frequency energy, like anger, on your page will attract more low-frequency anger.  I’ve seen this happen hundreds of times.  It is the very reason why we Admins on the First Wave Blue Ray Indigos Facebook page remove all low-frequency posts.  If we let someone post who is seeking money through a GoFundMe – even for a good cause – there will be 10’s of these in the next couple of weeks and most will not be for a “good cause.”  If we allow an apple-cider cure post – we will be flooded with more apple-cider, garlic, turmeric, ginger cures followed by shampoo ads and even, once, we got a fish tank being offered for sale.  And all this low-frequency clutter reduces the overall vibrational frequency of our page.  And for Spiritual people trying to raise their frequency, it’s like shooting yourself in the foot.

I, personally, do not want that Energy on my page.  Especially if there is a rant liberally peppered with foul language.  My choice is to check out the validity, get involved if I have something I can offer or delete the post if it is untrue or I can’t help in any way.  I also give the poster the benefit of the doubt – sometimes you do just need to rant!  But if all – or even most – of their posts are rants, then I remove the person from my friend’s list.  I don’t need their low energy affecting me.

I have one exception.  One area of zero tolerance.  Outright hatred, bigotry, fear-mongering.  These energies have NO place in my life.  Anyone who posts graphic pictures of the pain and torture of animals or other humans; anyone who spreads hatred and fear of other races, ethnic groups or communities – If this is where your energy lies; if you can share these things, fanning the flames of fear and hatred, even when you may disagree with them, ( the OMG look at this – it’s horrible kind of posts) then you will be removed from my friend list.   I try not to judge – we all have our path to follow, and sometimes I give the benefit of the doubt and just remove the post – but every time I have done this, I find those things coming back.

IMG_1389I hope this has given you some food for thought; that you better understand how easy it is to promote low-frequency energy and especially that if you want to raise your energetic vibration, you really need to be on your toes.  Work on Self doesn’t always mean from a healing / spiritual point of view; it doesn’t mean knowing the ins-and-outs of every Ascended Master – it includes your language use, it includes understanding why you do certain everyday things like having a rant! And it includes understanding the repercussions, Energetically, of those rants or low-frequency posts.

Yep, it can be a good thing to let the anger out – but maybe it is better to do it by yelling at a tree who will only argue back with a gentle, soothing hummmmmmm…..  Me?  I let rip in the shower.  Its amazing how much emotion can be released, transmuted and washed away when needed – without harm to anyone else.

Whatever decision you make – it is YOUR decision.  YOU hold responsibility for not only your Energy, but for how your energy affects the Collective Conscious Mind.  It is easy to see how your possible explosion of anger on your facebook page can affect a whole heap of other folk and can even set off a chain reaction around our globe.

Conversely, each time you choose to share something worthwhile, something that brought you a smile or a laugh; something uplifting or supportive – you feed THOSE energetic flames too.  How much better, I believe, to share the uplifting, positive, high Energy.

Choose wisely how your share Energy.  Your choice has deeper repercussions than you may have realised.

It was a long read – I hope you found it worthwhile.

Blowing My Top…..

I’ve just played one of those silly Facebook quizzes we are all so addicted to and it told me I have a lot of anger.  I cracked up – I thought it hilarious.  Anger is probably the emotion I least relate to.  Of the lower-frequency energies, I understand Fear the most and Anger (like most low-frequency energies) has a foundation in Fear.

Yep I get miffed at times but ANGRY?  That is a very rare thing.  But the quiz did get me to thinking.  Having lived in fear for most of my life, could I possibly have hidden angers buried so deep I can’t find them.  Is Anger just waiting for the right set of circumstances to crop up so I can erupt like Vesuvius and wipe out half the planet?  It certainly is feasible.  The two emotions are very closely linked.  This is something worth exploring.

So I delved deep to see if I can find Anger.  Well, first I am human and Anger is a part of the human lexicon of emotions, so, yes I am very capable of Anger.  Am I angry now, or likely to explode in the near future. I very much doubt it.  And the reason why is because I really don’t want to waste my energy on old low-frequency emotions.  I have worked incredibly hard to rise out of those low frequency energies to achieve – and maintain – a high frequency energetic vibration.  I have absolutely no intention of dropping back into that old fear-filled murk because I blew my top over some post on Facebook or my dog trashed the sofa or even at my husband when he asks my advice but wont listen to what I say.  And getting angry at the world’s political situation simply doesn’t make sense!  It achieves nothing but feeding the low energy flames.

In every case, you can do so much more if you maintain a higher frequency.  For past events……the very ones that have bubbled and festered deep inside you for absolutely years and are most likely to cause that major eruption…. Well, it is possible to move past them by learning to see them as your hardest yet most worthwhile lessons.  The people or situations that caused the most damage are actually your very best teachers.  You can choose to wallow in rememberance of these past hurts or you can choose to let these events be your agents for growth.  And in 99.9% of cases I will choose growth.

For current events (and this is just my take) If you are getting worked up and angry about something you either cannot physically do anything about or are not willing to get up out of your armchair and do something practically about, then ask yourself a couple of questions – Why am I angry?  What is stirring me up so much yet not enough to make me act?  (Here I am specifically thinking of the people who spout anger and hatred and foul language on Facebook posts).  Am I angry because it seems like it’s something I ought to be?  Could it be that if I am not angry I may be judged as being uncaring? Or, more likely,  are you scared of what the outcome might be.  Do I need to be angry to show I care?  Or maybe you are so furiously angry about something that you have no other choice but to go do something to help sort out whatever the issue is.  Then it may be a good idea to recall that Anger is simply energy.  And that Anger energy can be utilised into a more constructive, higher-frequency energy and put to great use in fixing the problem.

Of course, this is just my thoughts at this time in my life.  My thoughts change as I do.  Your thoughts may be totally different, but next time you feel Anger bubbling away or even if you are angry at what I’ve just said – think about the reason behind the anger.  Could it possibly be defensive?  Or are you fearful of the outcome?  Hmmm….  It’s so interesting to delve into all the fears and emotions that collectively  are described as Anger.

Next time you are blowing your top, stop and take a breath – and then start to think about all the emotions that are running through your body as a part of that Anger.  I bet Fear is there!   I can pretty much guarantee that if you do that exploration of Self, you will very soon find you are no longer angry – and that you have a much deeper understanding of what triggers you and why.

I did respond to the person who posted the quiz game with a laugh and a giggle and that person replied that Anger is good – fuel for Love.  First off I discounted what he said – Anger and Love are on opposite sides of the coin, but in a way he is right.  All human emotions are connected.  They are just at opposite ends of the Energy Ladder.  When you get past your anger you are heading towards Love.  They are both simply energy but one is low frequency and the other is high.

Can you be Angry and Love at the same time though?????  More thought needed on that one methinks.

Choosing our Path

We are constantly blasted with the fears and the hatreds of the world.  Except these are not “of the world” they are the fears and the hatreds of humans.  Some humans.  A small percentage of humans.  What is potentially frightening is that these people have recently been given permission from an authority that was once considered the most eminent position on our planet and is now rapidly becoming a side-show of dis-respect.

This moment in our linear time is a pivotal point.  We are at the crossroads where we must choose the forward path of humanity.  The choice is simple really.  Do we want to live in Love, in Peace, in Harmony with Gaia; in a place where our children do not need to fear their neighbour; in a society where each individual knows that he or she is an element of the whole; where no-one has to worry about the most basic needs of all Mother Gaia’s children – fresh, safe water and clean air.  Or do we want to devolve again, swamped in fear, hatred and bigotry?

Almost two years ago, I received a message from my Higher Self.  It was the first time I had received such a message, and the only time it was given in such clear and concise words.  The message warned of a choice to be made – the path of Humanity or the path of the sub-human.

Humanity was described as the ability to Love, to hold compassion, to understand with empathy.

Sub-humans are those who CHOOSE not to hold compassion.  Who CHOOSE hatred and fear.

The message warned that there was still time to choose which path, and to Love those who appeared to be following the lesser, sub-human, path.  It reminded me that these people are also Children of Gaia and they yet had time to move away from their fears and hatreds.

We have now reached the time of The Choosing.

Those who have already chosen the Path of Love must come together.  A World Group Collective Conscious Mind.  We must all act together without faltering to bring about the future we want to see.  The future where our children, and their children, can thrive.

For many years, Group Collective Conscious Minds have been forming and doing phenomenal work.  Often quietly in the background.  No fanfare, no bells and whistles, no song and dance.  In Silence, in Love, people have been Gathering.

The Water Protectors of Standing Rock are leading the way.  They are showing us that Love and prayer, song and community can and will overcome those who have chosen the sub-human path of greed and the raping of Gaia.  They hold the future of All in their Energy, their Strength and their Love of Mother Earth.  These are true Rainbow Warriors and it is time to start to bring the Group Collective Conscious Minds together.  To make our Choice.

 

Sue Almaak Dancer

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