Words contain Power. Power that is beyond anything that you might realise. At least, not without thinking deeply about the words that you use, and the words that others use around you. How they affect you – and how they affect those others that you speak with – or to.
There. Straight away, there, is an good example of what I mean. I said, “The others that you speak with or to.” Have a think about it. When you bump into someone and have a chat, then you mention that chat to another person or just review it in your mind later on, how do you describe that conversation? I could say, “I spoke with Essence yesterday” or I could say “I spoke to Essence yesterday.” Just have a think of the difference that is made by that tiny, often unthinking choice of words. You may not even have noticed the difference.
When I speak WITH Essence – we are talking pretty much on an equal footing, we are engaging each other in conversation.
Yet in this scenario, when I speak TO Essence – I would be not only taking control of the conversation – I would be taking Energy away from her because there is an inference that I am talking down to her in some way. Diminishing her. Of course, I never would consider myself in any way superior to Essence (she is my teacher, my mentor, my Spiritual Sister and, above all, my friend), but that diminishing of the Self of the person you are talking TO is a big potential for harm.
Think about it. If one of your co-workers was speaking TO you in this manner, always talking TO you and not WITH you, it wouldn’t take long before you would feel really disempowered, and if it kept on, you would end up feeling fearful, bullied. You’d loose the Joy in your work.
Now, I must say that CONTEXT also plays a big role in this. For example, Essence does talk TO me occasionally. She is my teacher, and she occasionally kicks my butt when I get too big for my britches, or I’m being particularly dense about something. She does this because I asked her to. I asked her to haul me back when I wander off track. Teacher to Student. It’s not a power-play, it’s a lesson that is given respectfully; I know the context and the Energy of the conversation and I am not being disempowered in anyway. With Essence, it’s quite the opposite. She doesn’t cause me Energetic Harm.
And this is what I want to talk about.
I’ve been living in a situation where the words that a neighbour uses has caused me Energetic Harm. It was not done on purpose, nothing at all was meant to diminish me or even make me feel uncomfortable, but after several months I reached the point where my Energy was seeping out of me like someone had turned on the tap. I was feeling drained.
My neighbour is a lovely person. A great person who would give everything she has, to help another person in need. She doesn’t have much herself, but I’ve seen her in action. She is a good person. She’s not on a conscious spiritual path – but she lives the best life she can. Except for her speech.
She’s a naturally vocal person and I am not. Loud noises are a trigger for my PTSD and she has a super loud voice. She spends a lot of time on her balcony, on the phone to various friends and I cannot help but hear her private conversations. I don’t want to but her voice carries as clear as if she is standing next to me so I constantly feel as if I am intruding. And it’s not just the volume of her voice, it’s the cadence – she mainly sounds angry. Even when she’s not, the cadence is as if she is arguing with someone, or being defensive. And every 2nd word begins, probably with very little realisation, with an F.
Have I said something to her? Have I communicated how I feel about this? Not really, not in plain language because she has the right to be who she is. I am the one who is sensitive to loud noise. I am the one who doesn’t want to hear another person’s life laid out on the table for all to listen to. I am the one who feels battered by the constant swearing and who reads into her syntax and cadence the energy of anger and discord. She is just a person who communicates in a certain way and doesn’t realise that from my perspective it feels like I’m being bludgeoned.
The reason I am sharing this is because I wanted to highlight how we can have an effect on others without realising it simply by the way we use the power of our voice and the words we use.
And words carry Energy.
Yes, we all know. This is a bit of a soap-box issue for me – I’ve written in my blog a few times on this topic, Way back in June I spoke on an IKoK Chat about it and I’ve given a few lectures on how you can shoot yourself in the foot by the words that you use, but each time I have been talking about you – about how your language use affects YOU. I don’t think I’ve ever spoken on how your language use, the way that you communicate, can affect others. But now I’d like you to think about exactly that.
We live in a world that depends upon communication, and as anyone who is aware of the Energy of such things will know, the vast majority of that communication at the moment is fear based. And right now, when it has become so tricky to know if what you are being told is true, or not, it becomes even more essential to be discerning about who you talk with, or even to, And who you listen to.
Making it even harder is the fact that so much mis-information carries a basis of truth – but a truth that has been twisted, embroidered, expanded until it bears little resemblance to the initial truth. That kernel of truth running through that misleads good hearted people into falling down the rabbit hole into anger and fear and despair. This is the communication that the Collective Consciousness of Humanity is dealing with. This is the communication style that has brought us to such a low point in this reality.
We talk, we use words, we communicate about coming together as One. As working for the benefit of all. And we use words, and syntax and cadence that says something entirely different. The microcosm – my neighbour, a good soul who works to aid people yet still, in certain circumstance and unknowingly, causes Energetic Harm. The macrocosm – Face Book, News media, the person you bumped into in the street. And possibly, probably, you or me.
So what can we do about it?
Previously, I’ve shared information about what to do so that your speech doesn’t affect your Energy and really, this is pretty much the same but with a focus on how your speech patterns affect others.
I’d recommend first listening to yourself. Record yourself on your phone and see what comes up. Do you talk with others or do you talk to others? Does that change depending on the context? Do you encourage conversation that brings everyone in on an even level? Do you listen respectfully when someone says something you disagree with or do you try to show them that your knowledge is better? Do you interrupt a whole lot? This is mirror work that we must all do – and not just once. It’s an ongoing process. Clear Communication is the base work of the Conscious Evolution of Humanity.
I’ve been doing this mirror work and I’ve discovered that some of my habits could be construed as annoying to others. I have a tendency to laugh in phone conversations but by doing this Mirror work, by LISTENING to myself, I’ve realised that that laughter is something I started to do many years ago to cover up my fears. It happens with any phone conversation I have with any person, and it happens because a valuable form of information is removed for me – basically I can’t read face and body expressions which is something I learned as a very small child in order to be able to work out if a situation is fearful or not. Those situations no longer apply but the cover-up laughter still remains. It’s something I can now work on. The mirror work is on self, but with the intention of bringing a new level of open communication with everyone around me.
I am a single thread in the weaving of the Collective Consciousness of Humanity. If I can improve my communication skills by being aware of the effects on others of my word choices and the way I deliver my message, I can have an affect on all other threads in that weaving.
If we can each learn to communicate and interact with each other in a way that is more considered, respectful and less likely to cause Energetic Harm, we will be taking a step forward on the road of the Controlled Conscious Evolution of our Collective.
DID YOU KNOW: People living in areas with high levels of daytime noise had a 36% higher risk of being diagnosed with mild cognitive impairment, and a 30% increased risk of Alzheimer’s disease than those living in quieter neighbourhoods.
This blog is from the International Koalition of Krones Bi-monthly Chat of 23rd October 2020. You can watch the full chat at: https://youtu.be/daflEFbrP-w and also have the opportunity to take part in an amazing and powerful meditation.
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